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mrsbrownOh yes, I was going to write about the letters I got from M.
On Friday, I got 2 letters - 1. Re a bastard and 2. Re: apologies
1. A bastard talked about the incident a few months ago when I realised that there was no point in me attending family counselling type sessions with M because really I'm only there in the hope that the professionals will find out what a bastard he is. I said this at the family counselling session.
Apparently that really upset him and he is willing to attend counselling to discuss these issues I have with him or else we should change the way we interact to be more distant because he had thought that we were getting quite friendly (he used christmas as an example)
At christmas J and I went and had xmas dinner at M's. He got out of bed as we arrived, stressed out his mother because he hadn't organised food before he went to bed and when we were ready to leave, insisted we stay to have some cake his girlfriend had gone to a lot of effort to make, but hadn't offered to us until 5pm. I wanted to yell and storm out when I say him getting out of bed, but a couple of glasses of wine made everything tolerable. hmmm maybe it's a good thing I didn't get into alcohol while we were together. I left M's house that day soooo glad he wasn't my problem anymore.
The 2nd letter itemised several incidents from our previous relationship and included details of what he was thinking at the time and an apology for each of them.
I got a bit upset reading them, mainly about trying to work out what to do about them and how I didn't want to inter-relate with him any more than I have to.
J was really good though - "It's M's problem, you don't have to do anything." so I just emailed M a thankyou/acknowledgment with a note that I just want to maintain the cool businesslike relationship we have had for the past few years. It felt good to leave all the angst to M.
I sometimes think I ought to talk to a professional about the stuff in my head about that relationship, but I can't really be bothered.
On Friday, I got 2 letters - 1. Re a bastard and 2. Re: apologies
1. A bastard talked about the incident a few months ago when I realised that there was no point in me attending family counselling type sessions with M because really I'm only there in the hope that the professionals will find out what a bastard he is. I said this at the family counselling session.
Apparently that really upset him and he is willing to attend counselling to discuss these issues I have with him or else we should change the way we interact to be more distant because he had thought that we were getting quite friendly (he used christmas as an example)
At christmas J and I went and had xmas dinner at M's. He got out of bed as we arrived, stressed out his mother because he hadn't organised food before he went to bed and when we were ready to leave, insisted we stay to have some cake his girlfriend had gone to a lot of effort to make, but hadn't offered to us until 5pm. I wanted to yell and storm out when I say him getting out of bed, but a couple of glasses of wine made everything tolerable. hmmm maybe it's a good thing I didn't get into alcohol while we were together. I left M's house that day soooo glad he wasn't my problem anymore.
The 2nd letter itemised several incidents from our previous relationship and included details of what he was thinking at the time and an apology for each of them.
I got a bit upset reading them, mainly about trying to work out what to do about them and how I didn't want to inter-relate with him any more than I have to.
J was really good though - "It's M's problem, you don't have to do anything." so I just emailed M a thankyou/acknowledgment with a note that I just want to maintain the cool businesslike relationship we have had for the past few years. It felt good to leave all the angst to M.
I sometimes think I ought to talk to a professional about the stuff in my head about that relationship, but I can't really be bothered.
Maybe
Date: 2003-10-08 07:11 pm (UTC)Otherwise, just write it down. It's amazing how clinical one can get about something one's put on paper. And how the act of putting on paper forces you to sort things out, at least to some extent.