You sound a bit conflicted on this one, Mrs Brown.
My reading of the 'Complete Idiots Guide to Breaking Bad Habits' suggests to me that you have exhibited the teensiest bit of passive aggression in your "forgetting". [Most of us are guilty of this one... blame the hectic pace of modern life]
I'm wondering whether you unconsciously hoped getting the relationship on a professional level would put you in a position to protect yourself emotionally from Gardner?
IMHO keeping the options of future friendship open... while not actually repursuing the gardening work with her... might be the safest bet. Rather than grovel and get her back, you could always just send a note apologising and commenting you realise your garden is just not a major priority right now... and perhaps you got a little carried away by her abiding love of plants (and talent with same)? Oh... also that you're sorry you seem to have jerked her around which was not your intent.
If you can't say something along those lines with a straight face... something else is going on.
Wow... other people's dilemmas always seem SOOOO much CLEARER than mine.
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Date: 2005-02-01 08:15 pm (UTC)My reading of the 'Complete Idiots Guide to Breaking Bad Habits' suggests to me that you have exhibited the teensiest bit of passive aggression in your "forgetting". [Most of us are guilty of this one... blame the hectic pace of modern life]
I'm wondering whether you unconsciously hoped getting the relationship on a professional level would put you in a position to protect yourself emotionally from Gardner?
IMHO keeping the options of future friendship open... while not actually repursuing the gardening work with her... might be the safest bet. Rather than grovel and get her back, you could always just send a note apologising and commenting you realise your garden is just not a major priority right now... and perhaps you got a little carried away by her abiding love of plants (and talent with same)? Oh... also that you're sorry you seem to have jerked her around which was not your intent.
If you can't say something along those lines with a straight face... something else is going on.
Wow... other people's dilemmas always seem SOOOO much CLEARER than mine.