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mrsbrownI had a theory about staying home on Friday night, NOT going Irish Dancing. But when a friend rang and asked us to dinner , I was glad I said yes. Her Dad is dying and she didn't want to be by herself.
On Saturday Mum came over and we mostly sat around. She kept wanting to do stuff, but I wasn't very keen and I think she might have been disappointed. She warned me weeks ago about paying for a family membership at PMYC so the kids could have sailing lessons. I really don't want the commitment to another activity. As usual she doesn't think it's very much for me to do and really, the kids could just look after it themselves.
She's got no concept that my role as a mother is to make sure that my children have the right gear, the right clothes, have eaten sufficiently and had enough sleep, if they are going to "make the most" out of my mother's money. I guess it's a responsibility I don't want. I really don't want to tell her in 6 months, 'they went a few times, but then they didn't have their gear at my place/M's place and they felt like sleeping in anyway, so they didn't go, and then they got embarassed about missing a week, so they didn't go back. Thanks for spending the money on membership, classes etc."
I was going to say that I really hate the fact that my kids don't do anything - no ballet, drama or sport and then I remembered; Scouts, showtime, musical instruments, surviving a shared costody arrangement, and I don't feel so bad.
After I'd driven mum to the airport, Laura and I walked to the National Trust exhibition of women's costume 1810-1910. It wasn't advertised like that but they didn't have any men's clothes. It was only a block from my new workplace - nice to walk past it.
I had a pleasant enough time at Monthly Bash. I officially became A&S minister, but when I was asked about the Pearls of Wisdom comp held , all I could say was, "there was a competition??" I fee a bit bad about that, I probably should have chased it up during the day. Although I did feel like I was just finding my feet about how to be there. Certainly felt like I needed a nap by the time i had jollied everyone into getting organised to leave home, with food, drink etc in the most appropriate clothes available. I'm glad it's only once a month.
On Saturday Mum came over and we mostly sat around. She kept wanting to do stuff, but I wasn't very keen and I think she might have been disappointed. She warned me weeks ago about paying for a family membership at PMYC so the kids could have sailing lessons. I really don't want the commitment to another activity. As usual she doesn't think it's very much for me to do and really, the kids could just look after it themselves.
She's got no concept that my role as a mother is to make sure that my children have the right gear, the right clothes, have eaten sufficiently and had enough sleep, if they are going to "make the most" out of my mother's money. I guess it's a responsibility I don't want. I really don't want to tell her in 6 months, 'they went a few times, but then they didn't have their gear at my place/M's place and they felt like sleeping in anyway, so they didn't go, and then they got embarassed about missing a week, so they didn't go back. Thanks for spending the money on membership, classes etc."
I was going to say that I really hate the fact that my kids don't do anything - no ballet, drama or sport and then I remembered; Scouts, showtime, musical instruments, surviving a shared costody arrangement, and I don't feel so bad.
After I'd driven mum to the airport, Laura and I walked to the National Trust exhibition of women's costume 1810-1910. It wasn't advertised like that but they didn't have any men's clothes. It was only a block from my new workplace - nice to walk past it.
I had a pleasant enough time at Monthly Bash. I officially became A&S minister, but when I was asked about the Pearls of Wisdom comp held , all I could say was, "there was a competition??" I fee a bit bad about that, I probably should have chased it up during the day. Although I did feel like I was just finding my feet about how to be there. Certainly felt like I needed a nap by the time i had jollied everyone into getting organised to leave home, with food, drink etc in the most appropriate clothes available. I'm glad it's only once a month.
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Date: 2003-10-08 07:16 pm (UTC)It is pretty normal in the SCA to be a bit at sea at the start of your first office. You'll do fine.