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The joys of motherhood
Aug. 29th, 2005 09:33 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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I'm sitting at home at nearly 9.30am and I've been ready to leave for work since 8am. I'm waiting to be sure that my children are going to school today.
They both resisted getting out of bed at their normal times, resisted getting dressed, and are now pissing about eating their breakfast and chatting. They're "tired." It's another day after a MTB weekend, they have to adjust to a different routine and expectations AND recover from getting home at 1am on Sat night.
Z also doesn't want to go to school because he had an altercation with his teacher on Friday, which hasn't been resolved yet and, based on Z's attitude, is unlikely to be resolved in a happy way just yet. T would rather miss school than be late.
It's really unfortunate they're both too old to just drag to school in their pajamas like I used to (I only did it twice, about 5 years apart)
I really understand wanting to stay home from school - I still regularly wag work (although I've now minimised my need to by organising an RDO), but wagging should be an active decision. You should do it when you recognise that you will be better off/do a better job at school/work, if you take a day off today. This pissing about, not quite getting it together, going really slowly...has probably developed over years of working out how to really piss me off!
I guess normally, I would get them to this stage of dressed and starting to eat breakfast and then leave them to it. With Z's additional motivation for staying home - I guess I'm stuck here until I drive him to school. His consequence will have to be dealing with the teacher on his own. Last night I offered to go with him, but I stipulated that it would have to be at 8am. We're not doing that now.
This is classic mother guilt. I need to be at work now, but my children need me to be at home. If I were home fulltime, I wouldn't have this conflict - but I'm sure I could find some :)
ETA
Now they're staying home. They both have to clean their rooms and get ALL of their washing done, as well as some miscellaneous housework tasks. Z says he needs time to think about his issue at school. I'm thinking that I'll stay home too and make sure the specified tasks happen. I also hate getting to work late , and I have to leave work early today as well.
I'm still feeling frustrated - not a good place to be intelligently parenting obstreperous children.
I'm sitting at home at nearly 9.30am and I've been ready to leave for work since 8am. I'm waiting to be sure that my children are going to school today.
They both resisted getting out of bed at their normal times, resisted getting dressed, and are now pissing about eating their breakfast and chatting. They're "tired." It's another day after a MTB weekend, they have to adjust to a different routine and expectations AND recover from getting home at 1am on Sat night.
Z also doesn't want to go to school because he had an altercation with his teacher on Friday, which hasn't been resolved yet and, based on Z's attitude, is unlikely to be resolved in a happy way just yet. T would rather miss school than be late.
It's really unfortunate they're both too old to just drag to school in their pajamas like I used to (I only did it twice, about 5 years apart)
I really understand wanting to stay home from school - I still regularly wag work (although I've now minimised my need to by organising an RDO), but wagging should be an active decision. You should do it when you recognise that you will be better off/do a better job at school/work, if you take a day off today. This pissing about, not quite getting it together, going really slowly...has probably developed over years of working out how to really piss me off!
I guess normally, I would get them to this stage of dressed and starting to eat breakfast and then leave them to it. With Z's additional motivation for staying home - I guess I'm stuck here until I drive him to school. His consequence will have to be dealing with the teacher on his own. Last night I offered to go with him, but I stipulated that it would have to be at 8am. We're not doing that now.
This is classic mother guilt. I need to be at work now, but my children need me to be at home. If I were home fulltime, I wouldn't have this conflict - but I'm sure I could find some :)
ETA
Now they're staying home. They both have to clean their rooms and get ALL of their washing done, as well as some miscellaneous housework tasks. Z says he needs time to think about his issue at school. I'm thinking that I'll stay home too and make sure the specified tasks happen. I also hate getting to work late , and I have to leave work early today as well.
I'm still feeling frustrated - not a good place to be intelligently parenting obstreperous children.
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Date: 2005-08-29 07:07 am (UTC)No, but now they are old enough to drag them to school in your pyjamas. a la Uncle Buck. You should try that. Just once. Walk them to their first class, too.
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Date: 2005-08-29 12:35 pm (UTC)